Embracing the Parts of You That Feel Unlovable
Have you ever noticed certain parts of yourself that just feel… unlovable? Maybe it’s that critical voice inside whispering you’re not enough, or a part of you that stays hidden because letting it be seen feels too risky.
Here’s something I’ve learned: those parts of us we struggle to love? They’re often tied to needs we didn’t have met when we were younger. Maybe we were taught that we had to be perfect to be loved. Or maybe we were so busy taking care of others that the idea of loving ourselves feels selfish, even wrong. Or maybe we just didn’t feel truly seen, and now trusting anyone else to see us fully feels impossible.
Whatever those experiences were, they’ve left marks that many of us carry, quietly. And the truth is, healing these parts of ourselves doesn’t have to be complicated. It’s actually pretty simple.
Loving the Unlovable Parts
In the Women’s Embodiment Circle, we recently explored this theme of radical self-love. Not the fluffy, feel-good, “treat yourself” version, but the kind of love that means showing up for the parts of you that don’t always feel lovable.
Healing can look like:
Hugging the part of you that feels unlovable. Imagine wrapping that part in warmth, giving it permission to just be without judgment.
Giving yourself permission to rest or play without needing to earn it.
Letting yourself be seen—letting someone else witness who you truly are and actually receive that validation.
These might sound simple, but they’re often the very things we needed most when we were younger and didn’t always get. And now, as adults, we get to give ourselves those moments.
An Invitation to Reconnect with Your Inner Child
Here’s a challenge for you this week: check in with yourself. Ask, “What does my inner child need right now to feel loved?” Maybe the answer is a nap, a few minutes of coloring, dancing around to music you love, or just being still for a moment.
Whatever it is, try it out and see how it feels. Notice any shifts, however small, in how you experience yourself.
If you feel like sharing, I’d love to hear about those moments and the impact they have. Reply here and let me know—these small acts of self-love add up, and it’s beautiful to witness how they help us come home to ourselves.
